It is a valid question.
If you went on a blind date, and sat down across from yourself, would you be interested?
Don’t just jump to a yes or no answer. Think about it for a minute. Be realistic.
If you met someone and he said he had your job, would you be more or less interested? What about the way he looks? Is his body something that makes you excited? Are his manners and way of expressing himself drawing you in?
It is hard to be honest with ourselves, but to take a real good look in the mirror, and think about the person you truly are will serve you far more good.
As a culture, we have become so good at saying what we do not want, rather than what we want. We have ideals of the person we are meant to be with, but many times, we do not live up to our own expectations. This is incredibly dangerous and beyond unfair. If there is something you would like in a mate, then you should possess it yourself.
It is that simple. We attract what we are. Positive to positive. Negative to Negative. Employed to employed. Fit to fit. Open to open.
If you find yourself saying, but I am positive, I have a good job and I am fit, but I keep meeting bum after bum then there is probably something you are putting out there that you may not even be aware of.
I think too many people are too quick to dismiss potential mates. We constantly over scrutinize our potential suitors because they lack something. Money, power, the right job. The list is endless when you want it to be, but why? The chances are it has something to do with your own lack of comfortability within yourself.
Remember no one is perfect!
We carry around insecurities that we tend to project onto other people. The things we don’t like about ourselves are the things we are so good at nitpicking other people for. If there is something that bothers you about the person sitting across from you on that date, ask yourself why?
This simple question could open your eyes to a whole new world.
I think there is something to be said about being picky; however, the problem arises when you become so picky that you discount 99.9% of your dating possibilities. What you are left with is a very small group of men or women that may not want you.
Yes, we all have a vision of who we are meant to be with, but having such a closed off mind could mean the true man of your dreams is going to pass right by you.
Be honest. Be true. Be open. And understand we all have changes to make. Make the changes you know you need to today. Tomorrow will always be a day away. Start now.
Remember even when the tides feel stagnant and unmoving, it is up to you to just keep swimming. Happy hunting my fellow fish in the sea!
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